I’ve never lived in the jungle before. Therefore, I never believed I would utter any of the jungle phrases I’ve come to say on a daily basis.
I’ve never lived in the jungle before. Therefore, I never believed I would utter any of the jungle phrases I’ve come to say on a daily basis.
Everyone has their own quirks and special preferences that make them unique. Mine happen to take on a hippie and bohemian quality. They smell of rose water and feel like sand beneath the toes on a Tuesday evening.
If you asked me on New Years Day 2014 where I would be in 2015, I would have told you Europe. Germany more specifically. After all, I was on my way to move in with my German boyfriend. To take a leap of faith for love.
I arrived in London feeling like I shed the past and was on a new path. I didn’t get the long-term visa I needed to live in Europe permanently with H, but I realized I had the opportunity to choose positive over negative, and ask myself a powerful question:
What do I want to do?
“Passion is energy. Feel the power that comes from focusing on what excites you.” -Oprah Winfrey
What are you passionate about? What drives you? What makes your eyes light up and cheer out loud?
For me it’s travel. Going to a new place, observing the culture, tasting the food, smiling at the new people, and watching family and friends interact. I think it is so amazing and beautiful to watch how other people live. Traveling means I actually get to live it, breathe it, taste it, and feel it first hand? Well, that just makes me do a happy dance.
For a long time I thought my days living abroad were over. I mean, where is the opportunity after studying abroad in college and then again for graduate school? You’re supposed to settle down, get married, have babies, and/or do the big corporate job by (insert insanely young age here). Right? Well, that’s at least what I thought. I have no idea where that seed came from, but it was a full fledged oak tree by the time I was 26.
At 27, and a breakup of a six year relationship, I had to reconstruct what I thought I wanted. In this reconstruction phase, someone close to me asked, “Yes, but what do YOU want?” I had never really, truly asked myself that. When I started to get happy in my own skin, decide what made me happy and not care what anyone else thought, I found myself living abroad in another country by age 28.
The Light Bulb Moment I Realized I was Living My Passion
I was in Amsterdam for a day trip with my boyfriend and his two friends, a month or so into my leap of faith abroad to live in Europe with my German boyfriend. After a long day of walking around, site seeing and exploring the city we stumbled upon a small pizzeria along a canal.
How my leap of faith process might help you with yours
Somewhere on the interwebs, the phrase ‘leap of faith’ is described as “an act of believing in or attempting something whose existence or outcome cannot be proved.”
For me, that is both terrifying and deeply comforting. A dichotomy, I realize. It also means; however, that others have searched for the term, that I’m not alone in this time of change. The famous google search when in a moment of crisis. If you are on the precipice of making a huge decision, read on and see if the process I use is of any help.
The different types of leaps & my crazy story
There are many types of ‘leaps of faith’ in all parts of life. Hopefully, we take at least little ones every day; getting out of bed in the morning, cooking something delicious for someone you love (or to be that loved someone doing the tasting), traveling to a new city, trying yoga, or moving across the ocean.
My leap of faith involves another country.
For me, as I write, it’s a leap of faith in moving across an ocean. The US to Europe to be more specific. For love. And a career change. And to scratch my travel itch again. Did I mention I don’t have my visa in hand yet? Or a specific ‘job’ lined up? Or a partner that is 1000% sure we are ready for such a journey? Nether one of us is 1000% sure – but no one ever is sure about anything under the influence of that sassy love hormone (unless you’re plain crazy, in my opinion).
The markets in Groningen are the best. THE BEST.
The first things I did in Deutschland –
1) My first real German meal… and it was delicious.
Then I ate this cuteness for breakfast. What a proper breakfast!
2) I had a lovely bike ride through the North German countryside (26 k in total) with H’s parents while he studied for finals.
3) I went to a farm house cafe, where they sell hand made soaps, organic meat and eggs, and other fun stuff.
They sold the handmade items in this new building – well new for European standards (since everything is amazing and more than 400 years old it seems like…)
4) I went to a tropical beach – believe it or not this is part of the North Sea! They import the white sand and put planter stands of palm trees and tiki huts everywhere, and it totally looks hot and tropical. In the summer, it is the place to be with a shoreline bar, floating restaurant, wakeboard jumps, and beach volleyball courts. Crazy.
5) I got excited for summer with the blond Germans…
More adventures to come!
I’ve been lost many times abroad –
Tips and Tricks to Make the Inevitable More Enjoyable
Getting lost while abroad just happens. Accept it now, and try to appreciate it for what it is, an adventure and a sightseeing tour. Just keep your head up – you were meant to see something along the way! Soak in the opportunity to view the local fauna and structures around you.
My ultimate ‘got lost’ adventure was in Spain, and was the first time I was ever lost abroad (and a four hour ordeal!). Luckily, avoided a major incident while in South Korea, which is funny, since Seoul has 10 million people, and Sevilla has under a million.
My adventure in Groningen
Here in the Netherlands, three weeks in, I tried to attend a meditation group I found from Couchsurfing.com, directly after my first yoga class in Dutch, I had 45 minutes to walk a 20 minute distance at the most, plenty of buffer. I even planned ahead and snacked on a peanut butter sandwich and a tangerine during the easy part of the walk.
Trying to find the meditation class: Fail
After my first yoga class in Dutch, I felt like I could take on the world. Upbeat and energized, I held my head high as I walked back in my familiar neighborhood along the canal. I ate my food on the way, birds chirping, blue sky and breeze flowing. Ten minutes later my familiar surroundings faded into an unfamiliar neighborhood; unfazed, I pulled out my crumpled direction street names and my iPhone to look at the picture I took of the map. Despite having 30% battery, I had a black screen with the sad looking empty battery picture staring back at me. Only slightly exasperated at this point, I trooped on, to rely only on the street name scrap of paper.
Europe Navigation Secret, Quirk #1
Now, let me tell you a little secret about European streets (gained from my first escapade in Spain – learned 2 hours into that adventure). The street names are not displayed on posts (like in the US), they are displayed on the sides of the buildings at the intersections. Sometimes they are placed further in on the building than one can appropriately see from the street, in my opinion, but I digress. A bit of hunting is necessary. I gave up trying to not look like a tourist and was full on gawking once in the unfamiliar neighborhood.
Quirk #2: Harry Potter Staircase Moving Streets
The odds were in my favor though, because while I looked for the next street name, I realized I ended up on the exact streets I looked for, before needing to turn. I attribute this on the streets changing name at every intersection (this is a bit dramatic of me, but often true, so watch out for it). Pleased with myself, I was right on schedule 15 minutes in as I stumbled on every street name I needed, right up until the until the second to last one. In my excitement of the street names appearing, I missed looking at ONE street corner. This caused me a 45 minute escapade down the road to another canal, another neighborhood, and more frustration.
I finally was forced to admit my conceit, after hearing a bell tower somewhere in the distance (there is always a bell tower close by in Europe) I realized the meeting had started, and I would have to come next week. At least I figured out the location, even if it was in the 9th hour. I walked home defeated, tired and cold, only to realize I was locked out when I got home (which is a story for another time), but boyfriend to the rescue 40 minutes later. He thoroughly enjoyed my detailed recount!
But, what did I see and learn you ask? Well, I learned the meditation class was much closer than I thought, I found an extra close grocery store, and learned the area behind our apartment neighborhood and how it all connected together.
The Things to Carry on an Adventure
It’s always advisable to make sure you are well prepared your first few times out:
It’s always advisable to write down your address, phone number (if you have one), a local large street or landmark near you, and a few key phrases in the local language if you are still learning it – all on a piece of paper you carry with you the first few weeks as well. It makes asking directions much easier and less scary. More reliable than an iPhone dying mid-adventure!
Getting lost creates a wonderful opportunity to practice the local language. It forces you into the scary place of needing to walk up to a stranger and look a bit ridiculous using just a few key phrases and large hand signals, but most people are extremely willing to help out. I usually go into a shop that looks cheerful and friendly with a couple customers inside, or to a family on the street. I also often follow the kid stranger-danger rule if all else fails, and walk up to a woman rather than a man to ask for directions.
Always pay attention to your next steps – if you are lost at night, notice how lit up the area is that you are headed into. Ideally, you would like to be able to see at least two different sets of people around you. If you notice the area you are entering into is really dark or really isolated, just turn around and retrace your steps to another area to head back in the direction you want. There is no need to get into a weird situation.
I did this with my boyfriend in Colombia, we were coming back from a street concert, fighting a little, a bit lost and not paying attention as we headed to the bus stop. It was only 6 pm or 7 pm, but the sun goes down really quickly in that part of the hemisphere, so it was pitch black out. We suddenly stopped talking and noticed it was a way darker street, with some questionable looking characters coming up ahead of us – quite a bit of them. We both whispered at the same time without looking at each other, “we should turn around,” so we did, and headed back to the main street with lots of light and way more people. We just found a different route to the bus stop we needed. We decided the longer route was way better than risking it, and it quickly quashed whatever we were squabbling about.
So enjoy, going out to explore your new neighborhood, especially if you will be there for more than a few days is ideal for gathering your essential kit, and trying out your navigation skills!
Do you have any similar adventures?
Something as mundane as shopping for food can be a fascinating museum of cultural anthropology when in a grocery store abroad. I hope I’m not the only one that loves walking around just staring at all the different types of packaging, sections and foods available. You can learn a crazy amount about a culture by simply viewing how it’s food looks on shelves!
Shopping in the Netherlands
A large difference from stores in the U.S. popped out at me right away, in the form of waist-high gate door flaps after entering the store through the main doors. Don’t let these misdirect you from the entrance – push right on through to enter. The metal posts are a bit intimidating when I entered the first time, as I was already confused about the lotion of the entrance. I could just imagine people running after me or alarms going off because I went in the wrong door (or flap). That tends to happen when I’m abroad though, I imagine people are extra-interested in what I’m doing – since I have no idea what I’m doing! In reality, people don’t care (until you do something really crazy).
The main differences from American to Dutch grocery stores
1) Complementary coffee! First you have to figure out how the machine works though, and for that I believe you will need a local. Also, make sure it doesn’t have a price next to the buttons for the different types of drinks, because every now and then it’s not. Tricky!
2) Extra packaged veggies and fruit – a lot of plastic:
3) Crazy fun labels:
4) General advice about everything: Try it – you’ll like it! When in doubt, just try it. You will either find your favorite thing on the planet, or know exactly what to avoid for the next trip. Trial and error baby!
5) Fresh flowers – Of course I heard the Netherlands was the land of tulips, but they really are everywhere! It is so cheerful, I have taken to buying a a tulip bunch every week for 2 or 3 Euros, simply because it warms up our apartment so much. There are great street flower vendors everywhere as well:
6) Wieners in a glass bottle! (Cheating – this was from the German grocery store, but located in the Netherlands)
7) They sit, we stand. The women (90% of the time it’s a woman) behind the check out lanes sit in chairs as they check you out at lightning speed (I attribute the lightning speed to all those packaged fruits and veggies – no typing in codes!) Not sure whether sitting or standing is better in the log run – there are arguments that sitting is the smoking of our generation, but I admit I have to look into the statistics behind that as a yoga teacher, but, I digress…
8) BYOB – In pretty much every country I’ve shopped for food in, they’ve required a small payment for plastic bags (not much paper available that I’ve seen). This small fee gets everyone to re-pack old plastic bags into their purses and backpacks like crazy. I love being able to do this! Before it became a thing to bring your own cloth bags to the grocery store in the States, I felt like such a weirdo bringing my own bags. Win for the environment!
Tips and tricks when in a foreign grocery store
-Match the main words on the label to the main words on the shelf price tag
This works when you have no idea how to read the language and need to figure out what the price is. It works for Asian languages as well in my experience, just match up the order of the characters instead of the letters.
-Be prepared with your home-credit card and cash
Some stores don’t take VISA or the other major forms of payment AT ALL. Weird I know, but they only accept cash or bank cards from in-country. Good to check before hand, or bring two forms of payment at first.
-Look out for card-only or cash only lanes
Be prepared if you only have one form of payment on you to go in the correct lane. Some check-out lanes don’t have the capability to take one or the other type of payment, which can lead to an embarrassing interaction. They usually always have pictures above each lane if that’s the case – little coins and bills for cash and rectangles for credit cards.
-BYOB: Bring your own bags
As I outlined above, most other counties have adopted the pay-per-plastic-bag policy, a small fee, but enough to make it OK to hoard bags in your purse or backpack.
-They usually ask if you want your receipt at the end – learn how to say yes or no
Or just smile and say ‘sorry’ and they will either switch to English or print it out automatically.
-UNLESS: Watch if they staple the receipt to your bag or staple your bag closed
they might check your bag at the door with your receipt
-Learn how to say thank you – Always a nice touch at the end, especially if you’ve had to stumble through the transaction, or spoken English with them the whole time.
-Watch if you need to pack your own bag, or if a local does it for you – Usually, you don’t need to tip the baggers, but just watch those that are around you or go in front of you for the social queue. That is the most difficult thing to get used to in my opinion, not tipping for common things like taxi rides or a beer. Refer to country guides for the social norm.
-Some stores have guards at the entrances that put stickers on water or soda bottles when you enter the store
If you have any poking out of your purse or bag, they place the store name on it to show you didn’t steal. Kind of nice!
-Many countries have isle-specific helpers that work in each area
Usually to answer questions on the products or help you find things in the cosmetics and personal care isles; don’t be surprised if they come up to you and ask you some things in the local language. Just smile and say ‘sorry’ if you don’t know what they’re saying. Usually, they will just smile and walk away, or switch to English.
-Don’t be fooled by the price – always know the conversion roughly – I still get excited by the price on things in Europe – I’m used to the exchange rate being in-favor of the county rate. NOT IN EUROPE OR THE UK!
-Some stores offer complementary coffee- Watch to see how people take it, if they pay, or if there is a price listed next to the drink buttons (since sometimes it’s not complementary!).
-Matching the code on the product to the code on the price – Like I stated above, it is the BEST way to figure out the price on the product if you can’t match up the product name. It’s a handy tool I’ve used even in the US, since sometimes the products are switched around on the shelf, and you can’t quite tell the price, especially if it’s on sale. That long numeric code under the scanner image will match up to the product’s number under the scan – just use the last four numbers as they can be quite long. I’ll add a picture here ASAP.
So no matter if you are at a resort town with tons of amenities that feel like your home country’s or you are thousands of miles away in a small city located in a different country, check out the local grocery store or market. You will learn a ton about the local culture and customs, as well as find a new favorite food (or a great story to tell about some not-so-great-food). Cheers!
Do you have a crazy grocery store story from abroad?